Takardar ƙara wa juna sani da aka gabatar a ajin ALH 400: Seminars, a Sashen Nazarin Harsuna Da Al’adu, Jami’ar Tarayya Gusau, Nijeriya, (2022/2023 Academic Session).
Nazari A Kan
Yaudarar Samari Da ‘Yan Mata A Garin
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TSAKURE
Wannan mukala tamu ta mayar
da hankali ne akan bincike a fagen yaudara tsakanin Yanmata da Samari, domin
nazartar wasu al’umma domin tattaunawa don jin ra’ayin Yanmata da sanin dalilan
da ke kawota. Dabara ta biyu an yi amfani da rubutattun kagaggun labarai gurare
daban-daban domin a samu ingantaccen sakamako a bincike
GABATARWA
Soyayyar gaskiya ba ta karewa
koda kin samu sabon masoyi, dadin soyayyar da mukayi a baya ita zataci gaba da
farautarki harya zuwa kareshen rayuwarki. Ha’inci na tunanin mutum kuma yana
iya zama tauyema wani hakkin da yake dashi akanka, kabawa wani bada saninsa ba,
kana iya kasa gane abinda kakeyi, amma wanda kake yi wa laifi ya matukar jin
zafi a ransa
1.1 DABARUN BINCIKE
Domin dora wannan bincike ga
sahihiyar hanya ne, ya sa akayi amfani da hanyoyin tattara bayanai kamar haka
1. Nazarin
ayyukan da duk suka gabata
2. Takaitaccen
nazarin kundayen bincike-bincike da mukalu
3. Nemo
bayanai ta hanyar fira da al’umma
4. Karance-karance
a bugaggun kagaggun labarai
2.0 MA’ANAR YAUDARA
Yaudara shi ne mutum
ya nuna wata manufa ko siffa a zahiri wanda ba ita ce a zuciyar shi ba
domin biyan bukatar kansa wanda hakan ke iya zama cutarwa ga wanda aka yi mawa.
Kaso mutum a zahiri amma a badini ba ka son shi, mutum ya amince
maka kaci amanarsa. Yaudara ita ce nuna soyayya ga samari fiye da daya ki tara
samari da dama wai kowanne akan zaki aure shi. Saurayi ya bayyana soyayya a gun
mata da yawa, Bazawara, Budurwa da sauransu da nufin duk yana soyayya dasu.
2.1 MISALIN YAUDARA
1 Kanan soyayyaya da yarinya,
ka dauke ta ka cusa a zuciyar ka ka ba ta amana fiye da kima ka yarda da ita,
ta sanya maka doka kaki kula kowace sai ita kadai amma ita a zuciyar ta tana
hangen wani can daban basanka take yi ba tsakani da Allah.
2. Saurayi mai yawan zuwa
wajen yan mata, yau ya je gurin Aisha gobe ya je wajen Hadiza ya ce mata sunan
sa Kamal dayar kuma yace sunan sa Amir haka yake duk gurin wadda ya je, yace da
aure yake san ta
3. Wani salon yaudara ga wani
saurayi yanda ya bayyana yan matansa kamar haka
Zan auri Fatima, gashi mun shuku da Rukayya,
sai dai kuma haryanzu Amira tana kirana a waya, kai Bilkisu ma fa tana kaunata,
koda yake Sadiya ta aiko min da Wasika, Zainab kuma ta yi min alkawarin umara,
Khadijah tace idan bani ba sai rijiya, Suwaiba ma fa ina son ta wallahi, ita
kuma Nafisa jiya har gidan mu ta zo, kunyar Hafsat nake ji wallahi, ban
kyautama Asma’u ba, Zaliha ba ta da lafiya sanadiyyar soyayyata, Husna har kuka
ta yi jiya saboda an zageni, na samu labarin Jamila ta gudu saboda za a aura
mata wani ban ni ba, wayyo Allah Humaira kina raina, Rabi ta take wani saboda
ni, Hajara kamar ta samu tabin hankali saboda soyyata, Surraiya ta suma saboda
naji ciwo a filin wasa, gashi Lubabatu ta shiga uwa duniya saboda ni, iyalan
gidan su Farida har gidan mu su ka zo suka sameni jama’a ya zan yi
4. San abin duniya shima yana
sa yaudara musamman mace zata samu saurayi mai sai da takalmi suna soyayya,
tana soyayya da mai saida kayan kwaidai irin su Kaza, Doya da Kwai shima suna
soyyaya don kowane da irin kalar salon yaudarar da zata yi mashi dan kowane
tana bashi lokacin yin fira da shi
5. Wasu iyayan na sa ayi
yaudara su tilasta yarinya yin soyyaya da samari da yawa domin kwadayin abin
duniya
6. Irin sunayen da Yanmata ke
anfani da su wajen sanyama samarin da suke yaudara misali Wawana, Sakona, ATM,
Gaja, Gurgu.
3.0 SIFFOFIN SAMARI DA YAN
MATA MAYAUDARA
Abu ne mai matukar wahalar
gaske kagane mayaudara sakamakon abu ne a cikin zuciya kuma sun kware wajen
shirya tilan da tsarin kalamai masu dadi da sanyaya rai a cikun soyyaya domin
kar a ganesu. Amma duk da haka akwai alamomin da zaka gane mayaudaran yan matan
da samari misali namiji zai iya cewa kibari saina na kamala gini na sannan ki
bayyyana ni a cikin gidan ku kowa ya sanni. Mace ita kuma idan saurayi yana san
ya turo gidan su da kudin aure sai tace kabari na kamala karatu kuma akwai
bikin yayata sannan nawa amma ka kwantar da hankalinka nan da shekara uku
sannan muyi auren mu kaga kaima ka kara natsawa sosai
3.0 TUBALIN GINA YAUDARA
1. Karya
2. Rashin
kunya
3. Cin
amana
4. Munafunci
5. Karya
alkawari
6. Butulci
7. Ha’inci
8. Rantsuwa
akan karya
Wallahi wallahi babu wanda zai yi yaudara face
ya aikata wadannan abubuwan da na lissafo a sama, ashe kenan yaudara babar
siffa ce ta yan wuta, kuma ba ta mutanen kirki bace ba, ba akarbar shaidar
mayaudari ba’a ruwanto hakan a hadasi daga gareshi ba.
3.1 ILLOLIN YAUDARA
1. Gurbata tarbiyya
2. Kwarewa da maganganun batsa
3. Bata tarihin gida
4. Nadama ko da na sani
5. Shiga mugun hali
6. Barin gaskiya a koma ma karya
7. Zubar da mutunci
8. Rashin ganin kowa da mutunci
4.0 MA’ANAR SOYAYYA
Hakikanin gaskiya soyayya ita
ce abu mafi girma da dauka da Allah ya sakama bayinsa a junan su domin da ba
don soyayya ba to da babu kowa kuma babu komai a sararin duniyar nan. Dandanon
zakin soyayya yakan iya kawar da duk wani daci da bauri da zai wanzu a zukatan
masoya. Yin fice wajen fanin soyayya ya kunshi iya sarrafa soyayyar ita kanta
soyayyar ta hanyar shagwaba, kissa, salo, iya tsara kalamai masu sanyaya rai.
4.1 NAU’OIN SOYAYYA
1. Soyayya don Allah
2. Soyayya don kudi
3. Son Rakumin Yara
4. Soyayya saboda ilimi
5. Soyayya saboda kyawun halitta
4.1.1 Soyayya don Allah
Ita soyayya domin Allah zakaga a kowane hali
mutum yake masoyiyarsa ko masoyinta bazasu guje ma juna ba kuma akwai tausayi a
tsakaninsu da kyakkyawar fahimta ko da bait aba komai ba a haka zakaga ta like
masa. ba ta damu da wani abun duniya ba saidai kuma duk muninta bazai kalleshi
ba haka kawai yana son ta don Allah ne
4.1.2 Soyayya don kudi
Idan mutum yana da kudi zaita ganin tarin
yanmata kowace ma son shi takeyi saboda kwadayin dukiyarsa, ita tana tsoron
talauci shima namiji idan yaga yarinya diyar wani babban mai kudi sai ya kulla
soyayya da ita domin idan ubanta ya mutu a ba ta gatanta su cinye tare.
4.1.3 Son Rakumin Yara
Ita soyayya ce wadda take faruwa a cikin wani
dan karamin lokaci, zakaga an yi saboda a cikin yan mintuna a daidai lokacin da
zakaji mutum ya shiga ranka amma wannan abun ba mai dorewa bane ba. Misali
haduwar mota, haduwa wajen biki, haduwa kasuwa, haduwa a makaranta sai kaga
tarayyar ta yanke a cikin dan lokaci kowa ya kama gabansa.
4.1.4 Soyayya saboda ilimi
Tabbas idan Allah ya baiwa Dan Adam ilimi yana
samun masoya a duk inda ya shiga musamman a makarantar Addini ko ta Zamani,
zakaga Yanmata suna bin saurayi yana koya masu karatu da tarin abokai, itama
mace idan tanada ilimi kawaye kala kala zatayi domin wannan ilimin da Allah ya
bata.
4.1.4 Soyayya saboda kyawun
halitta
Ita kuma soyayya saboda kyawun halitta tana
kulluwa ne ta dalilin son kyakkywar sura da namiji ko mace. Zakaga sau tari
musamman maza sunason mace kyakkyawa wanda kuma munsan shi kyawu wani lokacin
yana disashewa, bisa wannan dalilin ne zakaga wasu da kyawun ya disashe sai
itama soyayya sai ta disashe saboda daman an gina tane bisa son kyawun sura.
4.2 ALAMOMIN SOYAYYA
1. KUNYA: Da zaran
soyayya ta shiga ko da ace ba ayi ba, sai kunya ta shiga tsakanin masoyan
sufara jin kunyar junansu idan sun hadu ko a kan hanya a ko makaranta ko a gida.
2. YAWAN KALLO: Wanna ita
ce babbar alama ta soyayya misali yana kallon abin son sa da zaran ya waiga ya
ga masoyi ko ta ga masoyin da sun hada ido sai yayi sauri ya juya ya kauda
kansa haka itama ba zata jure kallon saba saboda tsananin kunyarsa da takeyi a zuciyar
ta hatta dan gidan su ta gani sai taji tamkar shi ne ta gani.
3. FADUWAR GABA: A
lokacin da soyayya ta shiga a zuciyar saurayi ko budurwa zaka samu da zaran sun
hango junansu kowane sai gabansa ya fadi saboda tsananin kwarjini.
4. TAUSAYI: Soyayya
musaman ta gaskiya tana tare da tausayi hakan na haifar da damuwa ga masoya ko
saurin kuka a gare su idan abin tausayi ya samesu musamman ma mata.
5. YAWAN AMBATO:
Mutukar saurayi ya shiga zuciyar budurwa ko budurwa ta shiga ran saurayi za su
rinka ba da labarin junansu idan zai yi labari ko idan zata bada labari zata
rinka kokari tana sa labarin saurayinta ko shima ya rinka bada labarin budurwar
sa.
4.3 Musayar Kalaman Soyayya
na Maza da Mata
4.3.1 Musayar kalaman soyayya
na Maza
1. Sakon barka da dare, zuwa ga sarauniya
Fatima wacce nake qauna a raina, farin cikin zuciyata, zinariya ko in kiraki
madubi abun haske zuciyata
2. Sarauniya Fatima kamar yadda taurari ke yin
haske gami da kyalli a sararin samaniya to haka fuskarki takeyin haske gami da
kyalli a zuciyata
3. Lallai ne nayi nisa da kea bar qaunata,
amma a koda yaushe murmushinki yana bayyana ta wata hanya da Allah SWT ya sanya
min ita a zuciya ta idan na ganta
4.3.2 Musayar kalaman soyayya
na Mata
1. Sahibina sonka ya tsiru a cikin zuciyata,
hakan ya sa nake kwana cikin tunaninka, ganin wannan kyakkyawan murmushinka da
jin muryarka na zama takin dake karama sonka girma a cikin zuciyata a kowace
rana, kahuta lafiya
2. Sonka a cikin zuciyata ya zamto tamkar wani
shukakken turare mai matukar kamshi da kyawun kallo, sonka ya kasance a cikin
zuciya ta ta yarda tilas ya zama abu mai matukar wahala bazan taba mantawa
dakai ba a rayuwata, ina sonka.
3. A kullum burina bai wuce naga na mallakeki
a matsayin miji uban yayana, na kasance tare da kai a cikin dare ko rana, san
yi ko zafi mu rayu tare har abada ina sonka
5.0 TUBALIN GINA SOYAYYA
1. Tsoran Allah
2. Hakuri
3. Kunya
4. Kulawa
5. Rikon amana
6. Tsafta
7. Fadar gaskiya
8. Kalaman soyayya
9. Iya Magana
10. Rikon alkawari
11. Kishi
12. Kwalliya
SUNNONIN SOYAYYA
1. Zuwa zance
2. Kyauta
3. Tattali
4. Yabawa
5. Tarairaya
6. Kauda kai
7. Mutunta juna
MUSTAHABBAN SOYAYYA
1. Iya kallon soyayya
2. Dawainiya
3. Mutunta dangin juna
4. Iya tura sako a waya
5. Yima juna murmushin
soyayya
7. Shagwaba
6.0 SAKAMAKON BINCIKE
Kamar yadda bayanai suka
gabata a baya, wannan mukala ta ta allaka ne akan gano wasu muhimman sakonni
kamar haka
1. Ana yin yaudara ne domin
cimma manufa
2. Ana yin yaudara saboda kwajin
abin duniya musamman ga iyayen mata
3. Ana yin yaudara saboda
rashin ilimin addini da na zamani ga matasa
4. Samari suna son Yanmata
kyawawa musamman yayan masu kudi sai su yaudare su domin kyawunsu ko domin
kwadayinsu dukiya
7.0 SHAWARWARI
Shawarata a gareku matasa
maza da mata kuyi soyayya dan Allah domin gujewa nadama ko da na sani wallahi
wallahi soyayya babu abin da ya fita dadi a duniya matsawar ansa tsoron Allah
da gaskiya a cikinta. Amma da zaran an sirkata da karya, yaudara to kullum kuma
cikin bacin rai da damuwa, zaifi kyau ku gina soyayyarku akan turbar gaskiya da
adalci domin cin ribar soyayya. Ina matukar jindadi idan naga masoya suna
soyayya.
8.0 KAMMALAWA
Wannan mukala kamar yadda
bayanai suka gabata wani yinkuri ne na gano yanda matasa maza da mata suke
yaudarar junansu, da kuma dalilan da ya sa hakan ke faruwa sakamakon wanda yayi
da wanda akayi mawa
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